Hi girls! I have a friend who believes that keeping your kiss for your future husband is a bit too legalistic and believes that God is more concerned with the matters of the heart. But, she is open to other opinions and testimonies and said that I could ask you guys on what you think about this. Do you believe God wants you to keep your kiss for your husband? Why, or why not? Do you believe it is a special gift or do you think it is a minor thing that doesn't really matter and is too legalistic? Do you believe that kissing counts as remaining pure? Have you been tempted in any way to give away your kiss? What motivates you to remain pure?
I definetly think that God wants us to keep our kiss for our husband. I think that the man that I am going to be with for the rest of my life should deserve that gift. How special would it be for him when I say - "I have never kissed anyone but you." I don't think it is a minor thing. Sure, it doesn't say in the Bible "kissing is wrong" but it does say that we should be pure in other matters. It is demonstrated in several verses, though, that kissing is a way of enticement. In Proverbs 7, it is told of how the evil woman lurked and enticed the man with a kiss that led to his destruction. Oh yes, I've been tempted - no more than like a peck on the cheek, but still! I'm motivated by the fact that I want to keep all my "firsts" for my husband (e.g. holding hands, writing him a special song, cooking him a birthday cake - poor guy...I'll have like peptoebismo for icing or something and salt mistaken for sugar, have at you. For those who don't know me very well...I can't cook. :P-, making love, etc.) and that I know this is what God wants of me. Remember, just because we live IN this world, does not mean we need to be OF this world. By keeping our thoughts and bodies pure, we are not only honoring the Lord, but living up to his standards. :)
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I mostly agree, I think hand holding is OK but other than that I agree! Cuz if we have high standards and a guy actually respects them? That guy is worth it all!!!*Alyssa
I'm glad you're making that commitment. Stay with it Evann! Your special guy out there somewhere will love you all the more for it.
hey, i got linked through little mary's blog. I'm a catholic teen living in malta (mediterranean sea, europe).
to begin with, i myself have never had a boyfriend/kiss/anything, not by choice but purely by coincidence. I'm almost 17. I don't think I'm going to save my first kiss till the altar, and i dont think anyone who lives in my country would. Obviously, i wouldnt just go round getting off with every guy, or even on the first date.. i'd wait a while. But i have many friends who have already kissed past/present boyfriends, and don't regret it. It's just a way of outwardly showing their affection. These couples help each other in their walks, and dont go further than a kiss. They keep each other strong and responsible. I think they're good examples of a christian relationship.
I appreciate where you stand on this, and I agree with most of it. =) I want to save my first kiss for my husband..holding hands and hugging I think is okay though if you're engaged.I don't know. I have thought about it though. We can email about it if you really want to know all I think about it all. =);)
I'd love to. My email address is RCiliaWerdmolder@gmail.com x)
If you want to know what I mean by special just email me:)
Hi girls! Sorry that i haven´t been posting or anything...I´m in Mexico right now. ;) I,ll be back on Tuesday evening...so maybe by Wednesday I´ll have a post? And i´ll reply to all the comments. thanks guys, er, girls! (wow, Mexican computers are so weird...)
i most certainly am saving my first kiss for my future husband...but my first kiss will be on my wedding day, when the pastor says...'you may now kiss the bride' :)
but its not a law...i have promised myself no holding hands/hugging/kissing etc because it will help me to wait and make our marriage so much the sweeter. i do it because i dont want to be a stumbling block to him and i want to help him to wait too! im striving for God's best, and i believe that just waiting and trusting God is what is His best. after all, He knows what our lives hold and He knows who that future guy is. i know that He cherishes and loves me and that He will care for me always. does any of this make sense? lol
sorry for the long comment :)
This is a great question to ask...important for us girls (and guys) to decide before we are in a situation where it would be easy to compromise. A gauge that I find helpful to use in determining what's too far is "how would I act (or want my spouse to act) if I were already married?" Would I care if my husband went around kissing other women? Of course! Therefore, I feel that I should hold myself to that same standard. What makes us think that single people have more liberties than married couples? Most likely, we are somebody's wife...we just don't know whose yet. Proverb's 31 says she will do him good all the days of her life. I think that means pretty much all. :) Anyways...keep holding your standards high...it's worth the wait.
Love you and hope you are having a blast in Mexico...can't wait to hear all about it.
Thank you all for your opinions on all this! Yeah, when I wrote my opinion, I didn't at all mean it was the law and everyone must do it otherwise they are sinning. I don't think that premarital kissing is a sin, but it could lean to actions that, premaritally, are sinful. That's what I think at least. Thank you girls for commenting! Oh, and if there are any guys reading this, you can share what you think on this! (I don't know why I wrote "girls only" - we want your beliefs on this too!) That would be great! Have a merry Christmas!
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